{"id":23099,"date":"2023-06-30T18:00:00","date_gmt":"2023-06-30T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/pabloincognito.com\/?p=23099"},"modified":"2023-06-29T22:43:52","modified_gmt":"2023-06-29T19:43:52","slug":"stop-being-ashamed-of-nudity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/pabloincognito.com\/en\/stop-being-ashamed-of-nudity\/","title":{"rendered":"How to stop being ashamed of your nakedness and love yourself?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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This question interests almost every person of any age. This question is rarely asked to a psychologist. Sometimes it is discussed with close friends. And very often it is \u201cgoogled\u201d. So where do complexes come from about appearance in general and nudity in particular? Let’s think!<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

\"\"<\/a>Complexes from childhood
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The very first information about the body we receive from parents and relatives. Then from kindergarten teachers, then from teachers at school, from peers. It just so happened in society that it is not customary to show one’s sensitivity to others and to oneself. We are taught to play the roles of good girls and strong boys.<\/p>\n

We get used to the fact that sensitivity = vulnerability. And vulnerability is very bad in our cruel world. But actually it is not! Sensitivity to our emotions and to the emotions of others teaches us to perceive the world as an exciting place in which to live a rich and vibrant life. Sensitivity helps a lot even in bad everyday situations. You just feel in advance that something is wrong, and bypass events, people, situations. Think about it that way!<\/p>\n

Growing up complexes<\/h2>\n

There are practically no people in the world who have not been touched by complexes acquired in childhood. Even if you are lucky and your baggage of complexes is small, traumatic situations of adolescence will catch up with you.<\/p>\n

First love. First refusal. Ridicule for too protruding ears, not inflated torso, small breasts, big ass. This list can be continued indefinitely… There will always be a person who does not like something in your appearance! Even if you are an angel, for someone the rustle of your wings will be too loud and not melodious enough.<\/p>\n

Complexity of youth<\/h2>\n

Having barely coped with part of the children’s and youth complexes, the beauty standards dictated by society and fashion fall upon us. And these standards are so high that it is impossible to achieve them even for the lucky ones, who were generously awarded by nature with an attractive appearance.<\/p>\n

It will take us many years of our lives to understand that this is marketing. We are being manipulated in the name of commerce. It is impossible to sell something to people who are satisfied with themselves. Fear and self\u2013doubt push us to do something that will bring us even a little closer to the invented ideal.<\/p>\n

Our complexes about our appearance make us adjust ourselves to someone else’s invented standards, meet someone else’s expectations, be comfortable and obedient. And that means not being happy!<\/p>\n

Society of criticism<\/span><\/h2>\n

We live in a society where mistakes are pointed out to us, but our successes are never shown to us. Therefore, someone else’s opinion is so important to us, and it is mostly critical.<\/p>\n

Because of this, in adulthood, we focus on the minuses, completely forgetting that for balance we are given one huge plus \u2014 the right to choose! Only we have the right to choose how we perceive ourselves as a whole, our appearance and even our nakedness …<\/p>\n

And, oh mysticism! Once we accept ourselves, society accepts us with all our \u201cflaws\u201d! In some magical way, our shortcomings turn into our strengths! And from an ugly duckling we turn into a beautiful swan. And the criticism of others is absolutely not important to beautiful swans!<\/p>\n

Secret in pleasure<\/h2>\n

Now that we have become adults, we do not have to be obedient and listen to the opinions of others, especially whose opinion no one asked. Now we can afford to live for our own pleasure. For example, wearing clothes that you like or not wearing them at all… Here we are talking exclusively about nudist beaches, I do not urge you to walk naked around the city and scare passers-by! You should not only take care of your pleasure, but also remember the comfort of others. Remember, they’re just not ready to see your nude performance show at the moment.<\/p>\n

Don’t put off your life! You say… When I lose weight, I will allow myself a photo session in the nude genre. When I make a figure, I will try to sunbathe naked. When I get plastic surgery, I will be loved for my beautiful face and body. Understand that all this may not happen, and you will definitely regret the missed opportunities. For example, how I regret…<\/p>\n

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Revelation: \u201cI regret that there was a huge 10-year break in my photography practice.<\/strong> If you are wondering what years I didn\u2019t pose at all, look for the \u201cPortfolio \/ By year of shooting\u201d tab. And now I understand the full depth of the loss. But, having concluded, now I will not miss the opportunity to enjoy the adventure called “Photo shoots in the Nude genre.” Even though I’m older now, even if some people tell me that I have completely lost my shame, I will still be photographed naked, because I know that the secret is in pleasure in myself, in life itself and in the compliments of people who truly like me!<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Learn to accept yourself<\/h2>\n

It is no secret that in order to like yourself, it is important to hear pleasant words from others. But what you think about yourself is much more important!<\/p>\n

There are some simple exercises that will help you accept your appearance and see your strengths.<\/p>\n

The mirror is your friend<\/h2>\n\n